How To Support a Friend Who's Struggling with Faith

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Having a friend tell you that they want to learn more about Jesus is a really exciting experience. It can feel like a huge and wonderful responsibility; like you’re finally living out your purpose as a Christian (insert an adrenaline rush and praise songs here).
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Easter is a common time for people to start asking questions about Jesus. While you might feel prepared to begin this journey with them, have you thought about the long-haul, or the potential for future disappointment? It’s important to prepare yourself for that, too.

What to do when a friend loses interest. When your friend first asks you about Jesus, you’ll naturally want to expose them to everything—Bible studies, church services, paying them a visit, giving them a Bible, or sending them sermons to watch online. In fact, you might have to “play it cool” and hold yourself back from bombarding them with too much information.

If your friend is receptive, you’ll get to witness them engaging with church for the first time and seeing their eyes light up when they learn new truths about the Bible, and about themselves. This can bring intense joy and fulfilment—both to them, and to you.

But sometimes as they journey with you, they might stop replying to your messages. They might stop turning up to Bible studies, asking questions, or showing interest. This can be really disappointing. You might start to wonder if they were offended by something you said, or if you came on too strong. You might even doubt God and His plan.

When spiritual conversations or relationships lose momentum, what should you do?

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Step 1: Learn from the disciples

Firstly, you can take encouragement from the disciples’ experience. Walking with Jesus for 3 years, the disciples witnessed incredible miracles, teachings and grew in their relationship with God. But even though Jesus preached about a heavenly Kingdom and His death, they didn’t understand what He meant.

When Jesus died and lay in the tomb on Saturday, the disciples didn’t know what to do. They were devastated and began to doubt. How could their Messiah be the Son of God if He was dead? Were the last three years of their lives all a lie?

If a friend loses interest in their Christian journey, you might start to doubt and question too. Did your friend actually like coming to church, or were they just being polite? Were the revelations they experienced genuine, or just emotional highs?

When Jesus rose again on the third day, suddenly the whole gospel message made sense. Jesus was the Son of God because He had conquered death! This spurred the disciples on and they began to spread the Gospel with their communities, and the wider world. God had been in control the whole time.

Step 2: Get practical

If you have a friend who has lost interest in Jesus, take heart.

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world”

John 16:33

God’s still in control, and He’s doing everything in His power to bring them back into a relationship with Him. But there are practical steps you can take, as well:

Pray

Pray that the Holy Spirit will open your friends’ eyes to the importance of Jesus, the Bible and being in Christian community. Pray that their desire for Jesus will be revived.

Connect

Send your friend a DM asking if they want to catch up for a meal or coffee. If you’re afraid you might scare them away, you can even say, “I promise I won’t be pushy or talk about church if you don’t want to, I just want to see how you’re going.”

Invite

If you think your friend would be open to it, invite them to your church’s Easter service. Easter is a popular time for even nominal Christians to attend church, so it can be a non-threatening opportunity.